Planning Guide: Gratuities

Wedding Planner If you feel like your planner went above and beyond their contracted services or if they provided any discounts, offering a gratuity of 10% - 20% is a nice way of saying "thank you" for the efforts. Another great way to say thanks is to write a review on The Knot and Wedding Wire.


Many catering companies add gratuity as a line item to their invoice. If your contract does not include gratuity, we recommend tipping $25 - $100 per server based on service style and number of guests.

Photographer and Videographer Tipping your photography and videography teams are optional. We recommend tipping $50 - $100 to each team member if you feel like they went above and beyond to "get the shot" and make you feel comfortable and confident. You may also consider a gratuity if you receive your video / images ahead of schedule.

Officiant A donation of $100 to their church is a great way to thank your officiant. If the officiant is non-denominational, consider giving them a small gift, especially if they are not charging for your service.


The florist does not typically expect a tip. If you feel like your florist provided excellent service, guidance, and execution a 10% gratuity is appreciated.

Music Offering a gratuity of $50 - $100 is a nice gesture to your band or DJ, especially if they have to carry a lot of heavy equipment from one location to the next. Depending on the requirements outlined in your band's contract, a $25 - $50 tip per band member is appropriate.

Transportation Drivers and valet staff providing timely and professionals services typically expect a gratuity of $50 - $100 per team member.

Beauty Professionals

Many beauty hair stylists and makeup artists will include a gratuity in their invoice. If a gratuity is not included, 15% or $25-$50 per stylist is expected.

Though tipping at weddings has become more of a custom in all service areas, it is not mandatory or even expected by most wedding pros. Providing a great review of your favorite vendors goes a long way in supporting their small business. We recommend WeddingWire, The Knot, Facebook, and Google. (You can copy and paste the same review in each forum!)

The best way to show your appreciate is to refer your vendors to friends!

5 Star Rating on The Knot and Wedding Wire

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